Jul 24

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #026 – Debit Fraud, Calves & Vegetable Gardens

podcast ep 26Episode #026 – Debit Fraud, Calves & Vegetable Gardens

 

In this episode, Clay shares a recent experience with Debit Card Fraud. He opens the INBOX to talk to Fat Clay, drops some truth about winter shorts and uses gardening to issue a challenge about hard work.

Talking Points & References

  • Debit Fraud
    • My recent experience with a Debit Card Fraud
    • Stealing is lazy
    • Our social contract
    • Lessons learned
  • INBOX

    • “…what would you say to ‘Fat Clay’ when he was just getting started?” (Jonah in Evanston)
      • Busting chops
        • Truth about fat guys wearing shorts year round
        • Calves are fat guy cleavage
      • All of your fears are real
      • Everything you believe to be horrible, really is
      • Do it anyway… cause it’s worth it
  • Vegetable Gardens
    • Nashville
    • Galatians 6:7-9 – “You reap what you sow”
    • Our little garden
    • There is a lot of hard work that goes on between sowing and reaping
    • You can sow a thousand seeds and hope for the best, but the most bountiful garden has to be tended to
    • You can’t just plant seeds, you’ve got to get your hands in the dirt
    • Just because you’re “not putting anything bad out”, doesn’t excuse you
    • The work you do determines how sweet the fruits of your harvest become
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Look at the seeds your sowing in this word and ask yourself if you’re doing the work that will allow me to reap the most bountiful harvest.
  • Support The Podcast

Quote(s) of the Week

“Is my life a clear indication that I understand the fact that ‘not doing anything wrong’ is still not doing anything?”

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Jul 17

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #025 – God & Dreams

God dreamsEpisode #025 – God & Dreams

In this episode, Clay celebrates the 25th episode by sharing a new view on chasing dreams. He talks about how his faith has changed his view on dreams and the truth about when real impact comes.

Talking Points & References

  • 25th Episode
    • Disclaimer
  • God & Dreams

    • Fell in with a community of dreamers who shared dreams. Prayed for each other. Cheered when we won and cried when we failed.
    • Gave bad advice when I said NEVER give up.
    • How do you know when dreams are put on your heart by God
      • #1 – It’s God-sized
      • #2 – It helps people
    • What does it mean when God puts it on your heart, shows up, and the dream still dies?
    • Which one do you love more – God or your dreams?
    • What are you following?
    • Dreams do a horrible job playing God.
    • “Baby” challenge of the week
    • When we find real impact.
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Hold your dreams up to the light of God and make sure you’re not putting them above.
  • Wrap-Up

Quote(s) of the Week

“The impact in our lives does not come when we’re pursuing impact… it comes when we’re pursuing God.”

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Jul 15

Sometimes I Need A Reminder

last try

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Jul 10

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #024 – Thinspiration, Reality TV and Leaning In

PodcastEpisode #024 – Thinspiration, Reality TV and Leaning In

In this episode, Clay serves up a little audio brunch by sharing HEADLINES to talk Thinspiration, checks the INBOX for Reality TV talk and turns a hill run into a Challenge of the Week.

Talking Points & References

  • HEADLINES

    • Diet, Exercise Tips For Every Age (Good Morning America)
      • Women’s Fitness Magazine suggests that diet and exercise (primarily in women) should change based on age.
      • More intense in the 20′s. More intentional eating in the 30′s. Yoga and pilates in the 50′s.
      • Clay’s Take: While there is certainly science and logic in this line of thinking, the BEST VERSION OF YOU needs to not try to pound a square peg into a round hole. Find what works for you and that you can stick with consistently, correctly and continually.
    • Adam Richman’s New Show Pulled From Travel Channel (Washington Post)
      • Travel Channel pulls new show after Adam Richman (Host of “Man vs Food”) fires back on social media.
      • Richman used thinspiration (#thinspiration) on Instagram and people went after him because hashtag is thought to glorify pro-bulemia and pro-anorexia.
      • He fired back with vile insults forcing network to suspend program indefinitely.
      • Clay’s Take: While there is no doubt that some of his messages were vile, Clay questions why people spend so much time and energy policing words on the internet. If you want to make a difference, don’t chase and chastise pseudo-celebrities online…. do something impactful!
  • INBOX
    • “…the one piece of advice you would give for people trying to find the BEST VERSION OF THEM…” (Pam)
      • BE FLEXIBLE
      • Holding too tight to a structure does nothing but build in exits and excuses
    • “…are there any Reality TV shows that you like?” (Deb)
      • I appreciate them if they motivate, but they aren’t reality.
      • You can appreciate them as TV, but don’t confuse it with a life that any of us get to live.
      • Don’t look for your reality on TV.
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Put your head down… lengthen your stride… lean in… and keep moving…
  • Wrap-Up

Quote(s) of the Week

“You can’t change THE world until you’ve changed YOUR world.”

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Jul 03

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #023 – The Simplicity Project w/Corie Clark

the simplicity projectEpisode #023 – The Simplicity Project w/Corie Clark

In this episode, Clay is joined by Corie Clark, the Author of The Simplicity Project. Clay and Corie talk about the four pillars of simplicity, the value of spiritual health and what your home says about you. Corie also talks clutter and answers the BEST VERSION question. Plus, Clay issues a simple challenge of the week.

Talking Points & References

  • Corie Clark

    • Origin Story
      • California-born Wife and Mom
      • Enjoyed writing, but never saw it as a calling until recently
      • Reached a point recently where she needed to do an assessment and see what life had in store.
    • How do you define Simplicity?
      • Finding room to breath
      • Not a minimalist philosophy
      • Doing what you’re called and intended to do
    • How did you realize you needed Simplicity?
      • Overwhelmed
      • Saying ‘Yes” to too many things
      • Needed to take a step back and see where you can create margin
    • Creating margin
      • Margin looks different in different areas of life
      • Find room to breath
      • When you have room to move, that’s when God comes in
    • Writing “The Simplicity Project
      • Simplicity is a need for everyone
      • Society is about “more more more” and “yes yes yes”
      • Simplicity takes away the excuses
    • The four pillars of Simplicity
      • Health – Spiritual and Physical
      • Home
      • Finance
      • Time
    • How does Spiritual Health impact Simplicity?
      • The MOST important for Corie
      • It impacts all areas and how I treat people
    • What story does your home tell about you
      • Comes from a Nate Berkus quote and says what do you want your home to say about you
      • I want my home to say ‘all are welcome here’ and that people who walk through the door are more important than the things inside
    • The 28-Day Simplicity Challenge
      • Quick and simple daily projects
      • Become more consistent and intentional
    • One thing to do today
      • Start with a personal assessment
      • Where you are now and where you want to be
    • The BEST VERSION of Corie Clark
    • Find Corie Clark and The Simplicity Project online
  • Clay’s Take on Simplicity
    • The closer I get to the BEST VERSION OF ME, the more I see the value in the little things
    • Cherish the little moments
    • Enjoy the open road of the day
    • Don’t make simplicity just about tangible goods
    • Appreciate the small blessings
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Take a moment each morning before anything else to appreciate the day
    • Don’t worry about the NEXT, just live in the NOW
  • Wrap-Up

Quote(s) of the Week

“Let your home tell your story…” – Nate Berkus

“We’ll deal with the NEXT, when we’re done with the NOW.”

More About Our Guest

Corie Clark lives in Southern California with her husband of 17 years and three children. Corie enjoys homeschooling her kids, writing, blogging, drinking coffee, and soaking in the salty air at the beach. She is passionate about helping people find their purpose and truly live it to its fullest.

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Jul 01

Priceless: The Real Value of $1 Flip Flops

$1 flip flopsThe chatter started in about April.

“Dad… Dad… Dad… Do we know when $1 flip flops is?”

I didn’t, but I assured them we’d hear.

“Dad… we’re going right? Old Navy. $1 flip flops. We’re going again this summer?”

This was April… in Michigan. The ground was still so “frozen” that little kids were trying to shove it in their DVD Player and sing along.

Didn’t they still have flip flops from last year?

“Dad! That was last year! Plus, it’s limit  5… so I ONLY got 5 pairs and they had way more colors!”

Oh… my bad. Should have known.

By the time that day came, they were on a flip flop hair-trigger.

“Dad! We’re still going, right? It’s today. $1 flip flops.”

It was 85 degrees with humidity to match that morning. A morning that already had me wishing I was flip flop laden instead of sporting the running shoes I donned for a very “sticky” marathon training run.

“We’ll be in the car.”

I made my way to the driveway questioning how two cents of colored rubber from China could merit this much excitement.

“I’m thinking blue? Are you thinking blue? I hope they have like a coral color this year? Dad! Are you getting $1 flip flops?”

They always call them $1 flip flops… as if there were a different kind.

For the entire 15 miles to the nearest battalion, base or aircraft carrier that houses the Old Navy, they plotted and game planned. Strategizing on how they would deal with a similar crowd to ones we’d seen in years past.

“I’m ready this year, Dad. Last year was touchy. The year before wasn’t much better. This year… oh yeah… I’m ready.”

We laughed as they replayed our previous voyages.

I hadn’t realized till then how many years in a row we’d made the trip.

How many times we’d laughed about some of the more “interesting” customers we’d encountered. $1 Flip Flop Day is like Christmas morning for “People Watching”.

How many times during the year they’d point at their feet, smile at me and say “$1 flip flops”.

We were back for another go round… and they executed their mission like a well-oiled machine.

“I got every color I wanted this year. Mission accomplished. Thanks, Dad. This was awesome… again.”

They’re $1 flip flops.

Truth is, you can probably get them for 98 cents at Wal-Mart… or “Wally World” as the girls and I like to call it.

$1 Flip Flop Day comes once a year.

“Thanks, Dad! Can’t wait to come back with you next year!”

Turns out, it’s not the $1 flip flops where you find the real value…

…it’s in the day.

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Jun 26

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #022 – The 21 Day Habit Myth

PodcastEpisode #022 – The 21 Day Habit Myth

In this episode, Clay explains the myth of the 21 Day Habit theory and suggests an alternative. He also chimes in on the Dr. Oz controversy in HEADLINES.

Talking Points & References

  • HEADLINES
    • WE OVERESTIMATE HOW HARD WE EXERCISE (CNN)
      • Study out of York University in Canada says we grossly underestimate what constitutes “moderate” or “vigorous” exercise.
      • Almost all can correctly identify “light” exercise.
      • Technology can be our enemy in exercise.
        • We may “fudge” our level of exercise in order to show a higher “Burned Calories” number to eat more.
      • Doing something is still exponentially better than doing nothing, but you still can’t out exercise your diet.
    • DR. OZ DOUBLES DOWN ON BOGUS WEIGHT LOSS PRODUCTS IN SENATE HEARINGS (LA Times)
      • John Oliver’s Take (NOTE: Not for all audiences)
      • Dr. Oz was forced in front of a Senate Sub-Committee to answer to some of his claims from the show.
      • He claims to not be a paid pitchman, but the committee questions his choices of words.
        • You may think magic is make-believe but this little bean has scientists saying they’ve found the magic weight loss cure for every body type–it’s green coffee extract.”

        • I’ve got the No. 1 miracle in a bottle to burn your fat. It’s raspberry ketones.”

        • Garcinia Camboja. It may be the simple solution you’ve been looking for to bust your body fat for good.”

      • Dr. Oz refuses to apologize.
      • Nutritional and Dietary Supplement industry grew from 4 billion to 32 billion annually since the early 1990′s largely through a lack of sanctions and restrictions.
        • Do not need FDA approval
        • Do not have to prove safety or effectiveness
        • You are allowed to make unproved health claims prior to marketing
      • We shouldn’t blame Dr. Oz or the industry… we need to own our blame.
      • Stop looking for the magic beans.
  • THE 21 DAY HABIT MYTH
    • There’s a widely held notion that “21 Days Forms a Habit” and it has been perpetuated by many famed and well-respected motivational speakers.
    • The real quote actually comes from a 50′s plastic surgeon named Dr. MaxwellMaltz and centered more on self-image
      • “These, and many other commonly observed phenomena tend to show that it requires a minimum of about 21 days for an old mental image to dissolve and a new one to jell.”
    • Studies have shown the reality is 18 to 254 days.
    • We’ve embraced the idea of 21 because it sounds easy.
    • The reality is that it’s no different from a magic bean.
    • We shouldn’t aspire to habits.
    • Conceding the existence of habits means you’d prefer to be out of control.
    • We should think in terms of CHOICES, not HABITS.
    • CHALLENGE OF THE WEEK:  Take everything that you consider a bad habit.  Post it.  Write it down. Tweet it to me.  Then switch HABIT with CHOICE.

Quote of the Week

“My habits don’t change… my choices do.”

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Jun 19

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #021 – The Parenting Trap

PodcastEpisode #021 – The Parenting Trap

In this episode, Clay talks about the parenting lessons he learned and didn’t learn. He confesses his biggest failure as a Dad and gives a special shoutout to a group of Dreamers.

Talking Points & References

  • #LaunchOut
  • Stronger Than Coffee: The Power of Community by #Tulsa5Club (Amazon)
  • INBOX
    • From Tim – “…greatest lesson you learned from your Dad that you use with your kids?”
      • Didn’t have the same relationship as a kid that most have
      • Began forging a relationship as an adult
      • Clarence Budington Kelland – “ My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch.”
        • Not just what I watched him do, but learned from what he didn’t do… that I wished he had.
      • Learned about a lot of bad relationships just by monitoring Social Media on Father’s Day
      • Time in finite
      • The BEST VERSION OF YOU doesn’t leave things unsaid… issue untended…
      • You’re on the clock
    • The Real Answer
      • Dad let us fight… but then he made us make up
      • Learning the importance of your family is critical
      • Don’t just blame your family of origin for what ails you… credit it for what it made you.
  • The Parenting Trap
    • Being honest and transparent with my failures as a parent
    • For everything my kids CAN do, it’s what they CAN’T that I hurt them with.
    • By making the people in our lives too dependent, we steal their autonomy
    • 1 in 3 Adult Children still live at home or have returned to live there
    • The BEST VERSION OF YOU wants everyone around you to thrive
    • CHALLENGE OF THE WEEK:  Find the places… the relationships… the instances where you are unfairly creating dependence and help them fly.

Quote of the Week

“My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch.” – Clarence Budington Kelland

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Jun 14

Where’s My Brunch? – The Great Father’s Day Scam

Father's DayEvery year it’s the same.

Every commercial on T.V. perpetuates it.

Every ad on the radio hammers it home.

And, sure, I’m even guilty of falling into the routine myself.

It’s even become a running joke between me and “The Girls” for years.

“Ladies!?! What do you do for Mom on Mother’s Day?” I ask setting the wheels in motion on our well-polished bit.

“Buy her flowers and take her to brunch,” they send back in their sarcastically angelic tween harmony.

“Aaaaand… what do we do for Dad on Father’s Day?” I softly volley back setting them up for the smash.

“Hand him a grill brush and send him outside to cook us dinner!”

They laugh and high-five. Enjoying the humor of the inequality, while assuming their estrogen will one day too serve as a free pass to chilled carafes of orange juice and an omelette station.

But… Where’s my brunch?

I like eggs and breakfast meats.

I like to have morning pastries and carving station roast beef compete for prime real estate on my second plate.

I like white table clothes and fancy napkins that I almost feel guilty hiding that second dessert that I didn’t really need in.

There’s no Father’s Day Brunch.

1-800-FLOWERS doesn’t pepper the airwaves with “don’t forget Pops this year” messages.

They don’t even dress up for Father’s Day!

Probably afraid they’ll get BBQ on their good clothes.

I don’t want to sound ungrateful… but, ironically, the only thing they’re looking for from the Old Man that Sunday is a grate full of burgers and dogs.

I like Brunch.

Look… I’m not saying I don’t appreciate Father’s Day.

I’m blessed.

Being a Dad is the only job I’ve ever felt marginally competent at.

I’m good.

I do the faces… scare the boys… drop the cliches… cheesy jokes… my Dad quiver is always full.

So, where’s my Brunch?

Maybe this is the year…

Maybe this year I wake up to my favorite flowers on the table… which… thanks for asking… is the sunflower… not sure exactly what it looks like, but the seeds are delicious…

Maybe this year they’re all decked out in their pretty summer dresses…

Maybe this year they say, “We got this Daddy… let’s go to brunch.”

Finally… my Father’s Day Brunch.

But… just in case… I’ll probably check the propane in the grill.

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Jun 12

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #020 – Generation Grit w/Laura Hale

Laura Hale Generation GritEpisode #020 – Generation Grit w/Laura Hale

In this episode, Clay talks to Laura Hale from Generation Grit about grit, what toys for boys are lacking and the lessons of crowd-sourcing. Clay also digs deeper into the concept of grit and why grit alone may not be enough.

Talking Points & References

  • Episode 20
    • Finding momentum
    • My quitting super power
    • Great feedback on Episode 19
      • From David Dollar… “…while it’s true that you do all that work just to get back to ‘0’… suddenly… you’re on the offensive… YOU are in control…. you’ve paid for the poor decisions…. but… back at ‘0’… now how you go forth is completely up to you.”
  • Laura Hale

    • Origin Story
      • Mom – A son and three daughters
      • “Business Geek”
      • Had a cherished season of staying home, but ready to dive back into the world.
      • Loved the toys for girls and the “girl power” message, but couldn’t find the same for boys.
      • Statistics for boys right now are tough.
        • Worse grades
        • More dropouts
        • Higher suicide rates
      • Society seems to applaud the strides we’ve made for girls, but are missing the issues with boys.
    • Why don’t the experiences exist for boys that do now for girls?
      • Historically, boys have had more advantages.
      • Society is focused on closing the gap for girls.
      • They don’t relate to the idea of “boy power”.
      • We love Super Heroes, but Super Heroes alone aren’t enough.
      • The message Laura saw from reading Harry Potter with her son.
      • Generation Grit can be an alternative – regular boys in tough situations.
    • Generation Grit’s first character
      • Mac Mason
      • 14-year-old boy in 1943 California
      • Lives real world experiences and challenges
      • Lessons of ego, friendship and mystery
      • Letting the momentum of transition impact other areas
    • Laura’s definition of Grit
      • The courage to show up and do something that matters in your own way. To be OK with failing and trying again. Learning and growing.
      • Often people think it means persistence, but we don’t want to send the message that boys are only worthwhile if they’re trying hard or achieving.
      • Try… be willing to fail… and try again.
    • Advantages of Generation Grit over today’s hot toys
      • It’s a vision of himself. A way to see how another boy interacts with the world in a very real way.
      • Really great stories shape how boys see themselves.
      • Love the idea of books (stories) and toys together.
    • Going theKickstarter route vs a conventional launch
      • The biggest question is “Is there a market?”
      • This is a unique way to see first if people are interested
      • Conventional wisdom in the toy industry today is that the market for 8-12 year old boys is going away.
      • If it doesn’t have a screen, they don’t want it.
      • I think boys want this, so I’m bucking the trend.
    • Generation Grit for girls?
      • The message of Generation Grit is for everyone – “Live Your Best Adventure”
      • Starting with boys because they aren’t out there, but the concept is valuable to all.
    • The future of Generation Grit
      • From a tactical standpoint – an expanded line covering multiple races and backgrounds.
      • More broadly – put things out in the world that boys will connect with and learn that they are enough… they can live their best adventure.
    • The BEST VERSION of Laura Hale
    • Find Generation Grit on online
  • Grit
    • A popular buzz-word in the last half a decade, likely due to its association with a tougher time in our history
    • Professor Angela Duckworth TED Talk
      • Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years, and working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”
    • Grit on its own can be dangerous
    • Grit requires focus and flexibility
    • The BEST VERSION of YOU doesn’t just have Grit
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Pick your head up and make sure you’re focused on the finish line
    • Have the flexibility to change course if needed
      • “One degree in the wrong direction… over time… we’ll get you nothing but lost.”
    • Keep pushing
  • Wrap-Up

Quote of the Week

“The courage to show up and do something that matters in your own way. To be OK with failing and trying again. Learning and growing.” – Laura Hale on Grit

More About Our Guest

Laura Hale is a mother of four (three girls and one boy). She is passionate about giving her children unstructured time to play and read. Once upon a time, she was an entrepreneur at Ebates.com and before that, a private equity investor. After spending years at home with the kids, she is building Generation Grit. 

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