Aug 28

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #031 – Bullying, Guidelines & Stop Signs

Ep31 bullyingEpisode #031 – Bullying, Guidelines & Stop Signs

 

In this episode, Clay breaks format to address an INBOX complaint and explains his take on bullying. He also shares a recent life experience and discusses the options when we hit the fork in the road called limitations.

Talking Points & References

  • Intro
  • INBOX

    • “…Bullying… I would strongly suggest you read up a little bit more about the facts before you start sharing these opinions on such a public forum…” (Joanna)
      • The “Facts” as I know them (which are really just my opinions that I firmly subscribe to)
        • Bullying – by definition – exists and always has
        • I do not believe there is MORE bullying today despite media and parental outcries that would tell you differently
        • I blame my generation of parents for it – Generation X has become Generation X-cuses when it comes to our children
      • My “bossy” kid story
      • As long as I’m on the soapbox….
        • “Task Forces” being organized to recognize, avoid and report bullying while completely ignoring the root
      • If we concede that there is more bullying today, the only people to blame are those who are not stopping it at home
  • Full to Half
    • I usually share stories of experiences that I’ve completed, but this week this one is fresh
    • Marathon training has been brutal this year, but not in the way you’d expect
    • The experiences of the last two weeks and how they’ve caused me to waffle in my decisions
    • Giving myself a deadline to decide
    • Making the final call
      • Who was I trying to impress?
      • What was I trying to prove?
    • James 1:2-4: (2) Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, (3) because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. (4) Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
    • The decision
  • Guidelines vs Stop Signs
    • The BEST VERSION OF YOU will come to a fork in the road where you’re faced with limitations.
    • No problem is without possibility, but the limitation forces you to choose a path – Guideline or Stop Sign
      • Guideline – take what you know and what you’ve learned and let it light the path
      • Stop Sign – Quit and continue to live in fear
    • Sometimes you have to do three times the work to get half of the results
  • Challenge of the Week
    • EXPECT. YOUR. BEST.
  • Support Clay & The Podcast

Quote(s) of the Week

“The BEST VERSION OF YOU puts yourself in a position to ACT.  Success is an assumption. Put yourself in a position to act and expect your best.”

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Aug 21

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #030 – On Paper, Titles & The Huddle

030Episode #030 – On Paper, Titles & The Huddle

 

In this episode, Clay immediately goes on a tangent about living life on paper and when we should give our story a title. Later, he uses the football huddle to talk about our tendency to get stuck in the phase between wanting and living our dream.

Talking Points & References

  • Intro
    • Episode 30
  • On Paper

    • The gap between what it’s supposed to look like on paper and the reality of life
    • The decades of life pre-defined
    • On paper – your 30′s are supposed to be the “merge” years
      • Growing career
      • Growing family
      • Staying on path
    • My daughter’s book
    • Don’t give your story the title first
    • Often we see how something is supposed to be on paper, only to live the story and find out there was no connection
    • The Thomas Edison of inventing analogies
    • The reality of my 30′s – Transformation not merging
    • Don’t name your chapter based on expectations… live it… and name it after experience
  • The Huddle
    • “You can’t just live to want it… you’ve got to want to live it.”
    • The gap between wanting and living is often filled with planning
    • All too often we set-up this step as a means of stalling
    • No one comes to watch the huddle!
    • There is comfort in the huddle
      • We surround ourselves with like-minded people wearing the same uniform and pushing to the same goal, but then spend too much time calling the play and no time running it
      • Community – our greatest teammate – can also be our trigger to complacency
    • I huddled around this Podcast for almost a year… till I finally ran the play
    • There are positive plays and negative plays, but they all involve action and effort toward the end zone

Quote(s) of the Week

“No one comes to the game to watch the huddle!”

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Aug 14

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #029 – Smoking, Trolls & Iron

trollsEpisode #029 – Smoking, Trolls & Iron

 

In this episode, Clay talks about trolls, haters and why you should always be iron. He dips into the INBOX for a question about smoking and the return of #DollarMakesSense with David Dollar.

Talking Points & References

  • Intro
    • A little outside of the box this week
    • Less about who you are and more about how you respond
  • INBOX

    • “…tips on battling smoking and weight loss?” (Darley in New Jersey)
      • Same personal battle
      • A few more details not captured in my origin story
      • How the times have changed
      • We can’t quit one as a substitute for the other – No “Get Out of Jail Free”
      • Smoking takes 9 years off your life expectancy, Obesity takes 11
      • So much you’ll miss
      • Selfishness
      • Tips
        • Treat them the same
        • Don’t pretend we live in a world where they don’t exist
        • Be proud that you’re making the choices despite the opportunity
  • Trolls & Haters
    • The truth about haters
    • “Kill the man” – You’re in the game!
    • The social contract as a content producer
    • No such thing as a Hater… good, bad or indifferent – they are all consumers
    • Trolls exist outside of the internet
      • That guy at the office
      • The person who bad mouths their spouse
      • The eye roller
    • Trolls don’t improve – they’re comfortable with a stationary position
    • The goal is to get you to be stationary
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Always Be Iron
      • Iron sharpens iron, but it has to rub against it to work
      • The world will never be in lockstep with you 100% of the time
      • Trolls will never sharpen your iron
      • Do the one thing you can control – always be iron!
  • Support Clay & The Podcast

Quote(s) of the Week

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another…” – Proverbs 27:17

“Always be iron!”

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Aug 07

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #028 – Redefine Rich w/ Matt Ham

Matt HamEpisode #028 – Redefine Rich w/ Matt Ham

In this episode, Clay goes one-on-one with Matt Ham to talk about how he hopes to help the world Redefine Rich. Matt shares his amazing passion and heart for stories of life and richness. Clay ends with a challenge to reach outside of your community to add flavor.

Talking Points & References

  • Intro
    • The BEST VERSION OF YOU is in community.
    • Community doesn’t always push the same direction.
  • Matt Ham – “Redefine Rich”

    • Origin Story
      • Born and raised in Wilmington, NC.
      • Life changed at 18 on a mission trip to the Bahamas
      • Pursued opportunity in Florida after college where he made bad decisions, but saw hope.
    • The initial pursuit of richness
      • The idea was always a noble one – to help others and change the world.
      • Sage words from Dad.
      • Felt the only way to change the world was to be financially rich.
      • Caught the “real estate wave” and felt he’d arrived.
      • Took a series of bad decisions to realize that richness is so much more complex than that.
      • The experience in Florida gave richness context.
    • The calling to write and speak about living richly
      • It was never a single moment in time, but an on-going story.
      • The desire was there, but he worked to quiet the voice.
      • Aunt Trish – “You make my life rich”
      • Realized he was pursuing his own definition, but took 7 years for the words to radiate.
      • Seeks out stories about “what rich means” and it gives him hope.
    • The Four RICH Principles
      • Recognize you’re broke(n)
      • Invest in others
      • Choose gratitude
      • Humble yourself with confidence
    • Humbling yourself with confidence in the noisy world of today
      • It’s been the principle that the most people are drawn to – good or bad.
      • The behind these principles is to teach, but also, if you’re already living them, define a rich life.
      • You have an incredible story
      • If your story is gone, the page is missing, but the book is still there.
      • If you don’t make it a practice to humble yourself with confidence consistently, humility will have a way of finding you.
    • Redefine Rich Podcast
      • This isn’t Matt’s message, it’s a story that has been told many times… he’s just putting a new lens on it.
      • Having conversations about what it all means to get a deeper understanding.
      • Two features – Matt talking about the principles and the Live Richly Spotlight on people who are exemplifying the principles in their own lives.
      • Finding meaning in the mundane.
    • The BEST VERSION of Matt Ham
    • Find Matt Ham and Redefine Rich online

Quote(s) of the Week

“You make my life rich.”

“The BEST VERSION OF YOU lives in community… but it’s not a gated community.”

More About Our Guest

Matt Ham is dedicated to guiding others toward rich living.  His own experiences have led him to the understanding and freedom of a rich life, and through his RICH Principles he helps folks uncover true richness, identifying real treasure and discovering true joy and contentment.

A successful small-business owner ranking in the top 1% of all agents in his industry, Matt’s proudest title is that of husband and dad.  Matt and his wife, Liz, have three sons under the age of four, of whom the younger two are identical twins.  As an avid triathlete, Matt trains and competes in races of various distances throughout the year, including the Half Ironman.  Matt holds a degree in Communications with minors in Religious Studies and Statistics, from North Carolina State University, where he graduated Magna Cum Laude.  Matt and his family make their home in Wilmington, North Carolina.

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Jul 31

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #027 – Cheating

cheating ep27Episode #027 – Cheating

In this episode, Clay talks about cheating and the truth behind why he thinks it happens. He talks about the dangers of the Cheat Day in your diet and introduces a brand new segment called #DollarMakesSense with David Dollar.

Talking Points & References

  • Intro

  • #DollarMakesSense
    • Cheaters
      • It’s an act of selfishness
      • You don’t have to agree with the rule, but you need to follow it
      • Call it lazy or entitled, but it’s rooted in selfishness
      • There may be a situation where you need to cheat, but there will always be repercussions
      • There are consequences to cheating
      • Cheating can short yourself out of knowledge
    • David’s Plugs
  • Cheating
    • The simplest definition with one of the broadest applications
    • Blaming “human nature” is just an excuse for weakness
      • We overcome our human nature all the time
      • We choose not to battle it when we can prosper from cheating
        • It’s always rooted in weakness
    • “Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character”
    • Cheating prevents us from doing life right
    • Cheat Days in your diet
      • Doesn’t reflex a realistic version of life
      • Need to learn that we don’t have to cheat, but earn grace in our life
    • Earning grace can be applied to all areas of life, not just our diet
    • We don’t have to cheat at life when we allow ourselves the grace that we’ve earned
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Earn Grace
      • Give grace to yourself when you’ve earned it
      • Give grace to those in your life who deserve it
      • And, if you haven’t started yet, start today!
  • Wrap-Up

Quote(s) of the Week

“Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.” – Albert Einstein

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Jul 24

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #026 – Debit Fraud, Calves & Vegetable Gardens

podcast ep 26Episode #026 – Debit Fraud, Calves & Vegetable Gardens

 

In this episode, Clay shares a recent experience with Debit Card Fraud. He opens the INBOX to talk to Fat Clay, drops some truth about winter shorts and uses gardening to issue a challenge about hard work.

Talking Points & References

  • Debit Fraud
    • My recent experience with a Debit Card Fraud
    • Stealing is lazy
    • Our social contract
    • Lessons learned
  • INBOX

    • “…what would you say to ‘Fat Clay’ when he was just getting started?” (Jonah in Evanston)
      • Busting chops
        • Truth about fat guys wearing shorts year round
        • Calves are fat guy cleavage
      • All of your fears are real
      • Everything you believe to be horrible, really is
      • Do it anyway… cause it’s worth it
  • Vegetable Gardens
    • Nashville
    • Galatians 6:7-9 – “You reap what you sow”
    • Our little garden
    • There is a lot of hard work that goes on between sowing and reaping
    • You can sow a thousand seeds and hope for the best, but the most bountiful garden has to be tended to
    • You can’t just plant seeds, you’ve got to get your hands in the dirt
    • Just because you’re “not putting anything bad out”, doesn’t excuse you
    • The work you do determines how sweet the fruits of your harvest become
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Look at the seeds your sowing in this word and ask yourself if you’re doing the work that will allow me to reap the most bountiful harvest.
  • Support The Podcast

Quote(s) of the Week

“Is my life a clear indication that I understand the fact that ‘not doing anything wrong’ is still not doing anything?”

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Jul 17

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #025 – God & Dreams

God dreamsEpisode #025 – God & Dreams

In this episode, Clay celebrates the 25th episode by sharing a new view on chasing dreams. He talks about how his faith has changed his view on dreams and the truth about when real impact comes.

Talking Points & References

  • 25th Episode
    • Disclaimer
  • God & Dreams

    • Fell in with a community of dreamers who shared dreams. Prayed for each other. Cheered when we won and cried when we failed.
    • Gave bad advice when I said NEVER give up.
    • How do you know when dreams are put on your heart by God
      • #1 – It’s God-sized
      • #2 – It helps people
    • What does it mean when God puts it on your heart, shows up, and the dream still dies?
    • Which one do you love more – God or your dreams?
    • What are you following?
    • Dreams do a horrible job playing God.
    • “Baby” challenge of the week
    • When we find real impact.
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Hold your dreams up to the light of God and make sure you’re not putting them above.
  • Wrap-Up

Quote(s) of the Week

“The impact in our lives does not come when we’re pursuing impact… it comes when we’re pursuing God.”

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Jul 15

Sometimes I Need A Reminder

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Jul 10

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #024 – Thinspiration, Reality TV and Leaning In

PodcastEpisode #024 – Thinspiration, Reality TV and Leaning In

In this episode, Clay serves up a little audio brunch by sharing HEADLINES to talk Thinspiration, checks the INBOX for Reality TV talk and turns a hill run into a Challenge of the Week.

Talking Points & References

  • HEADLINES

    • Diet, Exercise Tips For Every Age (Good Morning America)
      • Women’s Fitness Magazine suggests that diet and exercise (primarily in women) should change based on age.
      • More intense in the 20′s. More intentional eating in the 30′s. Yoga and pilates in the 50′s.
      • Clay’s Take: While there is certainly science and logic in this line of thinking, the BEST VERSION OF YOU needs to not try to pound a square peg into a round hole. Find what works for you and that you can stick with consistently, correctly and continually.
    • Adam Richman’s New Show Pulled From Travel Channel (Washington Post)
      • Travel Channel pulls new show after Adam Richman (Host of “Man vs Food”) fires back on social media.
      • Richman used thinspiration (#thinspiration) on Instagram and people went after him because hashtag is thought to glorify pro-bulemia and pro-anorexia.
      • He fired back with vile insults forcing network to suspend program indefinitely.
      • Clay’s Take: While there is no doubt that some of his messages were vile, Clay questions why people spend so much time and energy policing words on the internet. If you want to make a difference, don’t chase and chastise pseudo-celebrities online…. do something impactful!
  • INBOX
    • “…the one piece of advice you would give for people trying to find the BEST VERSION OF THEM…” (Pam)
      • BE FLEXIBLE
      • Holding too tight to a structure does nothing but build in exits and excuses
    • “…are there any Reality TV shows that you like?” (Deb)
      • I appreciate them if they motivate, but they aren’t reality.
      • You can appreciate them as TV, but don’t confuse it with a life that any of us get to live.
      • Don’t look for your reality on TV.
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Put your head down… lengthen your stride… lean in… and keep moving…
  • Wrap-Up

Quote(s) of the Week

“You can’t change THE world until you’ve changed YOUR world.”

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Jul 03

Remodeling Clay Podcast: Episode #023 – The Simplicity Project w/Corie Clark

the simplicity projectEpisode #023 – The Simplicity Project w/Corie Clark

In this episode, Clay is joined by Corie Clark, the Author of The Simplicity Project. Clay and Corie talk about the four pillars of simplicity, the value of spiritual health and what your home says about you. Corie also talks clutter and answers the BEST VERSION question. Plus, Clay issues a simple challenge of the week.

Talking Points & References

  • Corie Clark

    • Origin Story
      • California-born Wife and Mom
      • Enjoyed writing, but never saw it as a calling until recently
      • Reached a point recently where she needed to do an assessment and see what life had in store.
    • How do you define Simplicity?
      • Finding room to breath
      • Not a minimalist philosophy
      • Doing what you’re called and intended to do
    • How did you realize you needed Simplicity?
      • Overwhelmed
      • Saying ‘Yes” to too many things
      • Needed to take a step back and see where you can create margin
    • Creating margin
      • Margin looks different in different areas of life
      • Find room to breath
      • When you have room to move, that’s when God comes in
    • Writing “The Simplicity Project
      • Simplicity is a need for everyone
      • Society is about “more more more” and “yes yes yes”
      • Simplicity takes away the excuses
    • The four pillars of Simplicity
      • Health – Spiritual and Physical
      • Home
      • Finance
      • Time
    • How does Spiritual Health impact Simplicity?
      • The MOST important for Corie
      • It impacts all areas and how I treat people
    • What story does your home tell about you
      • Comes from a Nate Berkus quote and says what do you want your home to say about you
      • I want my home to say ‘all are welcome here’ and that people who walk through the door are more important than the things inside
    • The 28-Day Simplicity Challenge
      • Quick and simple daily projects
      • Become more consistent and intentional
    • One thing to do today
      • Start with a personal assessment
      • Where you are now and where you want to be
    • The BEST VERSION of Corie Clark
    • Find Corie Clark and The Simplicity Project online
  • Clay’s Take on Simplicity
    • The closer I get to the BEST VERSION OF ME, the more I see the value in the little things
    • Cherish the little moments
    • Enjoy the open road of the day
    • Don’t make simplicity just about tangible goods
    • Appreciate the small blessings
  • Challenge of the Week
    • Take a moment each morning before anything else to appreciate the day
    • Don’t worry about the NEXT, just live in the NOW
  • Wrap-Up

Quote(s) of the Week

“Let your home tell your story…” – Nate Berkus

“We’ll deal with the NEXT, when we’re done with the NOW.”

More About Our Guest

Corie Clark lives in Southern California with her husband of 17 years and three children. Corie enjoys homeschooling her kids, writing, blogging, drinking coffee, and soaking in the salty air at the beach. She is passionate about helping people find their purpose and truly live it to its fullest.

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