Lounging on the couch Sunday with a belly full of Mother’s Day Brunch, I happened upon a short little segment on ESPN’s Sportscenter where they discussed the evolution and the relative disappearance of the classic “Hi Mom!” when an athlete is shown on TV. It’s only three and half minutes… I’ll wait for you to watch before I go on…
I know I do this a lot, but let me open with a few disclaimers….
I liked this piece. I get what they were trying to do. I get that it was Mother’s Day. I get that, in the end, they were saying that “Hi Mom” has become more of a meme than a meaningful sentiment today.
Disclaimer #2… I’m a Mama’s Boy. I would never turn my nose up at a piece singing the praises of Moms. Some of my favorite people are Moms.
There were a few moments that I really scratched my head on. The most notable, for me, was the following statement: “If anyone deserves a satellite shout-out it’s Mom… that’s especially true these days when Mothers do so much to mold young athletes.”
Now that statement by itself is pretty fair and harmless, until it was followed with the statement from Linda Juergens – the Director of the National Association of Mothers Center where she says, “It’s the Mother whose the one who drives the carpool, makes sure you have the time in your schedule to make your practices and make your games…”
That’s just flat-out an inaccurate statement.
While I understand that this is the case in some families, completely taking Dad out of the equation does nothing but continue to propagate this myth that Fathers only have fringe involvement in their children’s lives. In a world where households with two working parents are now the majority and we’re generations removed from the Mad Men meets Archie Bunker portrait of a cold and distant Father, Dads today, in most cases, are just as active in their child’s extracurricular life as Mom is.
Just last night, with this ESPN piece still bothering me, I picked up my daughter from her Volleyball practice. Among her team of 12 little girls, eight of them were being dropped off and picked up by Dad – most of whom came early and stayed late to help their daughters work on drills. I’ve seen the same in Soccer. I’ve seen the same at Skating. I see Dad’s at my daughter’s voice lessons, helping with the Middle School musical and handing out programs at the Choir Concert.
The Soccer Mom thing is real. I’m not saying that it doesn’t exist. And I’m certainly not saying that Dads are more active or important than Mom. But, in a society where people constantly want to preach the benefits of duel parent households and justifiably crucify Father’s who aren’t around, we need to really take a look at how we continue to ignore this very silent majority of good Dads.
Moms are so important to a child’s life…. but so is Dad.
Just because they aren’t looking for some credit, doesn’t mean they don’t deserve it.